Saturday, February 02, 2008
nana time!
the boys have been in grandma heaven the past few weeks, starting with nana nan's visit. abie and oz love how animated and fun their nana is, how she describes everything they are doing in such wonderful yet simple detail, how expressive she can scrunch her face, smile or be silly serious, and how she doesn't skip a beat playing peek-a-boo or hide and go seek. here's just a small sampling of all the fun the boys had with their nana. you'll notice that in true nana fashion, most of these pictures have to do with food!
Friday, February 01, 2008
cha-cha-cha-cha-cha changes!
"one year" has brought on tremendous transition with our silverboys. it's been happening for the past month now, but seems to keep picking up speed as they move past the 12 month mark. if your first birthday isn't a big enough milestone, why not just go ahead and throw in walking, moving to one nap, and weaning yourself off the boob?!
let's start with breastfeeding. first of all, HOLY CRAP! i've actually, officially, nursed these guys for 12 months. i NEVER thought i would get to this point. geez, there were times i barely thought i would get to 3 months. but as most of you know who read this blog, we found a way to work through our challenges and breastfeeding became a fantastic thing for us. it's really been a team effort. i've almost exclusively tandem fed these guys, and most of our really amazing intimate moments have happened in these close quarters. i can remember when the guys would run their fingers over each other's faces, giggling mid gulps, then reach up to touch my face. after nursing, one of their favorite things to do was to grab my hands (one for each boy - perfect!) and study my palm, then flip my hand to the back side, then flip it to my palm again, and then start laughing hysterically. the marvels of "the other side!" breastfeeding has served us well, and maybe served me even better than them. i have to say it's been a great "tool" to have in my back pocket through these past 12 months. when things got real hairy, and i just didn't know what to do, nursing them would always seem to do the trick. well, times have changed.
over the past month we've scaled back to three feedings. first thing in the morning and then after each nap. the day sessions have, for lack of a better word, "deteriorated" in a major way this past week. so much so we're down to 1.5 feedings now - meaning abel is still willing to nurse for about 90 seconds during the day. oz just can't be bothered, and as soon as abie sees ozzy running around playing with toys, he begs to join him. so in a very short time, we've gone from three squares a day to one. it's a good thing the boys really like their sippy cups and have gladly accepted plain soy milk (we're not doing the bovine thing). so far, so good. and the boys are clearly NOT undernourished. so really, i think this transition is more about me. in the back of my mind, i guess i kinda hoped the boys would continue to nurse a few times a day, especially since we decided not to do regular milk. but now that i'm faced with the boys weaning themselves, i have to quickly process all of this. the hardest part so far is seeing the boys literally squirm away when i position them on the enormous nursing pillow. something that used to be so welcoming to them, such a comfort, is now a major disturbance and cramp in their style. and that comfort is attached to ME! so tomorrow, all we'll do is the first morning feed, which continues to be a good thing for everyone, but i think we'll phase it out over the next few weeks (and hopefully not dramatically sooner), as my body and mind continue to adjust to this huge change. and, of course, i am thrilled with the prospect of getting that massive pillow out of our living room, wearing bras again, and banishing those darn nursing tops with a bazillion internal straps and openings. the one thing i'm not so thrilled about is having to cut out that nightly ice cream (among other calories)!
onto naps. today was the first time in, say, three weeks that the boys took two naps. we've rapidly gone from two wonderful 1.5 hour stretches (minimum), to one measly 45 minute nap...if i'm lucky. granted, the boys have recently started walking, and both are getting another round of teeth (abel has one popping as we speak and two more in the works). so there's a lot going on that can interfere with good day zzzzs. but i'm increasingly wondering if the boys are telling me they need to transition to one nap. this has been a major source of frustration for me, maybe because these two nice naps have always been my respite during the day. a time when i cleaned up, prepared food for them and me, took a shower, did laundry, blogged, and if really efficient, rested for a few minutes. as the boys gab, poop, jump and scream (w/ delight and sometimes not-so-much-delight)...anything but sleep...i have started to get impatient and even angry sometimes. i HATE feeling like that towards my guys, as any parent would, especially because i know so much is going on with them. so i'm working on it. as well as a transition strategy to one, long nap. haven't figured it out yet, but i'm reading about dawn's experiences over at the joys of twins with great interest! and if anyone has any suggestions...i will be eternally grateful.
to end the post on a high note, the boys are both transitioning to being on their own two feet. it's beyond exciting and possibly the cutest thing i've ever witnessed! oz took his first steps about two weeks ago and is getting more confident by the day. he's now somewhere in between walking and crawling to do the things he wants. if it's within 10 steps, he'll walk. anything longer than that and he's all about the speed crawl. he LOVES to be on his feet though, so i imagine that this transition will go pretty fast. he's such a little drunken sailor walking around - i love it! and abie is making good progress from his first steps just a few days ago. he has this great way of studying oz and figuring out what works and doesn't, then whipping out his version in a much more proficient way than his bro. when he walks, he is so solid and purposeful. i promise i'll get some video and post that soon.
this one year mark, amidst all the change, has been some of the funnest times i can remember. the boys keep us laughing and smiling all day long with their antics, silliness and cuddles. our little brute, oz-man, has developed such a soft side. he'll stop whatever he's doing to crawl as fast as he can over to us, climb into our lap/onto our chest, and snuggle into us for a minute, and then he's off again! and abie dances his butt off all day long and is just the gentlest being i have ever met - he still strokes my face with the sweetest smile, and loves to pet matilda with the softest, most respectful touch. we love these boys with every inch of our soul and thank god, every single day (multiple times), that abie and ozzy are in our lives!
let's start with breastfeeding. first of all, HOLY CRAP! i've actually, officially, nursed these guys for 12 months. i NEVER thought i would get to this point. geez, there were times i barely thought i would get to 3 months. but as most of you know who read this blog, we found a way to work through our challenges and breastfeeding became a fantastic thing for us. it's really been a team effort. i've almost exclusively tandem fed these guys, and most of our really amazing intimate moments have happened in these close quarters. i can remember when the guys would run their fingers over each other's faces, giggling mid gulps, then reach up to touch my face. after nursing, one of their favorite things to do was to grab my hands (one for each boy - perfect!) and study my palm, then flip my hand to the back side, then flip it to my palm again, and then start laughing hysterically. the marvels of "the other side!" breastfeeding has served us well, and maybe served me even better than them. i have to say it's been a great "tool" to have in my back pocket through these past 12 months. when things got real hairy, and i just didn't know what to do, nursing them would always seem to do the trick. well, times have changed.
over the past month we've scaled back to three feedings. first thing in the morning and then after each nap. the day sessions have, for lack of a better word, "deteriorated" in a major way this past week. so much so we're down to 1.5 feedings now - meaning abel is still willing to nurse for about 90 seconds during the day. oz just can't be bothered, and as soon as abie sees ozzy running around playing with toys, he begs to join him. so in a very short time, we've gone from three squares a day to one. it's a good thing the boys really like their sippy cups and have gladly accepted plain soy milk (we're not doing the bovine thing). so far, so good. and the boys are clearly NOT undernourished. so really, i think this transition is more about me. in the back of my mind, i guess i kinda hoped the boys would continue to nurse a few times a day, especially since we decided not to do regular milk. but now that i'm faced with the boys weaning themselves, i have to quickly process all of this. the hardest part so far is seeing the boys literally squirm away when i position them on the enormous nursing pillow. something that used to be so welcoming to them, such a comfort, is now a major disturbance and cramp in their style. and that comfort is attached to ME! so tomorrow, all we'll do is the first morning feed, which continues to be a good thing for everyone, but i think we'll phase it out over the next few weeks (and hopefully not dramatically sooner), as my body and mind continue to adjust to this huge change. and, of course, i am thrilled with the prospect of getting that massive pillow out of our living room, wearing bras again, and banishing those darn nursing tops with a bazillion internal straps and openings. the one thing i'm not so thrilled about is having to cut out that nightly ice cream (among other calories)!
onto naps. today was the first time in, say, three weeks that the boys took two naps. we've rapidly gone from two wonderful 1.5 hour stretches (minimum), to one measly 45 minute nap...if i'm lucky. granted, the boys have recently started walking, and both are getting another round of teeth (abel has one popping as we speak and two more in the works). so there's a lot going on that can interfere with good day zzzzs. but i'm increasingly wondering if the boys are telling me they need to transition to one nap. this has been a major source of frustration for me, maybe because these two nice naps have always been my respite during the day. a time when i cleaned up, prepared food for them and me, took a shower, did laundry, blogged, and if really efficient, rested for a few minutes. as the boys gab, poop, jump and scream (w/ delight and sometimes not-so-much-delight)...anything but sleep...i have started to get impatient and even angry sometimes. i HATE feeling like that towards my guys, as any parent would, especially because i know so much is going on with them. so i'm working on it. as well as a transition strategy to one, long nap. haven't figured it out yet, but i'm reading about dawn's experiences over at the joys of twins with great interest! and if anyone has any suggestions...i will be eternally grateful.
to end the post on a high note, the boys are both transitioning to being on their own two feet. it's beyond exciting and possibly the cutest thing i've ever witnessed! oz took his first steps about two weeks ago and is getting more confident by the day. he's now somewhere in between walking and crawling to do the things he wants. if it's within 10 steps, he'll walk. anything longer than that and he's all about the speed crawl. he LOVES to be on his feet though, so i imagine that this transition will go pretty fast. he's such a little drunken sailor walking around - i love it! and abie is making good progress from his first steps just a few days ago. he has this great way of studying oz and figuring out what works and doesn't, then whipping out his version in a much more proficient way than his bro. when he walks, he is so solid and purposeful. i promise i'll get some video and post that soon.
this one year mark, amidst all the change, has been some of the funnest times i can remember. the boys keep us laughing and smiling all day long with their antics, silliness and cuddles. our little brute, oz-man, has developed such a soft side. he'll stop whatever he's doing to crawl as fast as he can over to us, climb into our lap/onto our chest, and snuggle into us for a minute, and then he's off again! and abie dances his butt off all day long and is just the gentlest being i have ever met - he still strokes my face with the sweetest smile, and loves to pet matilda with the softest, most respectful touch. we love these boys with every inch of our soul and thank god, every single day (multiple times), that abie and ozzy are in our lives!
light and shadows
on monday i received my awesome "mother of one-year-old-twins" present - a nikon d40x digital slr! wow, what a difference a camera can make! i've only been able to futz around with it a few times with all the activity going on here (grandmas in town, etc). but i can already tell i'm going to have A LOT of fun with this camera, especially when i get the right lens. right now i'm using the "kit" lens, which is a zoom. it's lightweight and actually does pretty well, but has a very small maximum aperture. so i'm crossing my fingers for a sigma 30mm fixed lens for valentines day! the sigma is fairly affordable and has gotten good reviews.
on other fronts, our sweet abel took his first two steps on wednesday. yesterday he was up to four! oz has become quite the walking machine and can make it half way across the room now. so much happening and so much fun!
on other fronts, our sweet abel took his first two steps on wednesday. yesterday he was up to four! oz has become quite the walking machine and can make it half way across the room now. so much happening and so much fun!
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Saturday, January 26, 2008
journey
i woke up on this morning, one year ago, not knowing today would be the day that would set in motion the birth of our boys.
it was our regular friday routine of doctors appointments. first in line was the perinatologist for a non stress test and BPP (biophysical profile). since my blood pressure had been on the high side, i had to go every week for these more advanced tests to monitor the well being of our babes. this morning's tests were just like the others - the boys were looking great. and my blood pressure was actually on the normal side of borderline. we left with the doctor saying, "maybe we won't see you next week!" (which he had actually been saying for the past two appointments)
next up was our regular OB. he took a peek at my cervix and i was about 2 cm dilated (normal) and said, while everything looked good, he wanted to do more monitoring just to make sure my blood pressure wasn't affecting the boys well being. his office is next door to the hospital, so he sent us up to labor and delivery for the tests. both jordan and i felt very strange as they admitted me into the maternity ward, like "what is really happening here?!" they gave me a gown, hooked me up to a blood pressure machine, strapped two monitors to my belly, drew some blood and tested my urine. after two hours, jordan was starting to get impatient and i was starting to wonder why were were still in the maternity ward. everything had checked out perfect and my blood pressure was, again, looking very good. the one thing were waiting on was the results of the blood test. that's when dr. love walked in (yes, that's really the name of our OB).
the blood test showed that my liver was functioning sub-optimally. i asked what that meant and the doctor gave me the grave diagnosis that if we waited it out, my body could stop functioning and he's had patients slip into a coma in a matter of 12 hours. his next sentence was, "right now you're healthy, the boys are healthy, so let's have us some babies!" it was exactly one day and one month before my due date of feb. 27.
up until this point, i had been solely focused on having our boys with as little "interference" as possible. we had taken natural birthing classes and we'd talked to dr. love about my desire for a drug free birth. but now we were faced with a different situation than the one i had created in my mind and i have to say that i'm proud of my ability to quickly change gears. added to the safety factor, i was miserably uncomfortable at this point and it was almost a relief to know that in just a matter of hours our boys would be snug in our arms instead of cramped in my belly. so after a short discussion, jordan and i looked at each other, smiled, and said "it's time to meet our boys!"
as soon as the decision was made, jordan left the hospital and went into high gear. he had to run home, get our packed bags (thank god we did this two weeks prior!), get matilda and ally set at their caregivers, call our doula, etc. i called my parents to tell them what was happening and my mom and dad immediately scheduled their flight to be with us the following morning. and then the real "admittance" began. i signed a bunch of papers (we had done pre-admittance which helped reduce a lot of the paperwork), twice as many because we were having TWO births. i have to say that's when it started to really sink in. reading and signing all of these papers for baby a and baby b. very soon i was going to meet our TWO babies, and be responsible for them for the rest of my life. i was going to be their mother. wow.
from that point on, things started happening fast. i was moved to our room - a regular labor and delivery room - and hooked up to an IV and administered pitocin. i was still by myself, but feeling pretty calm, and i was even able to call a few family and friends. it was a good time to just center myself and reflect on what was happening. i was so excited and a little bit scared of how this birth was going to go, although i had an overwhelming sense that everything would be just fine. and to my surprise, i had no reservations about how things were progressing and how we were dramatically veering from my "ideal" of birth. this was around 3:00 pm.
jordan got back to the hospital around 4pm and our wonderful doula, lanell, showed up shortly after. around 5:30pm dr. love came in to break my water. the nurse had tried about an hour earlier but had no success. it was a weird feeling having this gush of water come out, but to feel no pain sensation. and up until that point, despite getting pitocin, i hadn't really felt any contractions. the doc said that would change soon. and it did. in a very serious way. i went from feeling no pain to having very intense contractions almost immediately. and mind you i didn't want an epidural and was committed to going as far as i could without this assistance. by 7pm i was in the throws of labor and it was the most painful, intense thing i have ever experienced. all i can say is thank god for our doula. she massaged my back, said inspiring, guiding words, and kept me going. i was having contraction after contraction, with less than a minutes sometimes between them. it was crazy. i was moaning, i was screaming, i was smashing my face into the pillow and drooling like mad, i was squeezing jordan's hand so tight he honestly thought i was going to break some bones. and then they checked my cervix and is was only dialted 5 cm. i was ready to give in.
i talked to jordan and my doula about getting an epidural and lanell gave me extra strength and assurance to keep going. after about three more hours of mind and time-bending labor, i felt an urge to push and lanell thought this was an excellent sign and asked the nurse to check me. we all thought for sure i was just about there. no deal - i had progressed, but was at 8 cm. ugh! i knew i didn't have 2 more cm. in me without some serious help. without hesitation, i screamed "i'm done! get me an epidural! NOW!" it couldn't come fast enough (after i made that decision, it was like the longest 10 minutes of my life waiting for it!), and as soon as it was in, it was instant relief. actually, it was more like sweet, sweet relief! all of the crazy pain i had experienced for the past 5 some odd hours vanished. i took a nap. i meditated. we listened to great music. i laughed. i imagined the birth. around midnight i started feeling a lot of pressure and asked the nurse to check. i was very close, but still not dilated to 10. an hour and more pressure later, she checked again and it was go time. time to push. so exciting!
i got to push on my side for a while, on my other side, and while it felt good, i wasn't making as much progress as the nurse wanted. so she asked me to go on my back, which i was not thrilled about, but said i'd give it a try. it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. and i was getting much better at the "mechanics" of pushing, which basically consists of pushing through your butt, like you're taking a monster poo. pretty strange.
finally, after about 70 minutes of pushing, abel's head had crowned. it was beyond exciting and i could really feel it. part of me wishes i could have seen what was happening, but just seeing the excitement on jordan's, lanell's and the nurses faces, i knew something very powerful and amazing was happening. the nurse called in the doctor and EVERYTHING changed. we were lucky to stay in the L and D room the whole time, which i am so grateful for. no OR for the delivery, which is unusual. but within a matter of seconds, this wonderful, private, intimate birth sanctum that we had created for the past 10 hours totally changed. with the arrival of the doctor came about 7 others. the lights got bright, they wheeled in a two stations for the babies, it became cramped and chaotic. this was at 3am. it took another 30 minutes of crazy pushing with the doctor and his entourage before abel was born. dr. love had gone home and so a doctor we had never met was "at the helm." he was a serious guy and it was clear that birthing our babies was serious business to him. "one big push and his head is out!" and i felt such amazing relief. two more pushes and our sweet abel was born at 3:38 am! as soon as he was out, the nurse tried to grab him to take him to the "examining" station. our doctor said no, this baby is going to his mother, and he put abie on my belly so i could hold him. i will never forget this, my first time seeing my first born. total magic. so overwhelming and beautiful. it was beyond what my mind could comprehend and i felt totally out-of-body. i was all heart.
after about a minute of me holding abel (or maybe it was 30 seconds), they whisked him away and it was back to business. push! push! push! all of a sudden i realized i had another baby to birth - it was oskar's turn. i had no break between births. in retrospect, the one thing i wished was to have about a 10 minute break after abie was born. but for some reason it was very important to get oskar out as fast as possible. well, that just wasn't ozzy's style. he started out high in my uterus and after an hour of pushing, sometimes double and triple "rounds" of pushing without a break, plus the doctor being elbow deep trying to grab a leg to pull him out (oz was head down so it was to no avail), we were all spent. oz's heart rate had a couple decelerations and the doc declared that he had only descended to the top of my pelvis. not a ton of progress for an hour of pushing. then the hot spot reared its ugly head. the epidural had worn off in one localized area, causing intense pain on the left side of my pelvis. i thought i had a cramp and was trying to stretch it mid pushes. hysterical now that i look back, but not fun while it was happening. the doc probably thought i was a nut ball. i remember pushing the epidural button like 50 times. the doc looked at us and said, "i think we need to call this." i looked at everyone and said, "i'm done. get oskar out." it was as simple as that, and then the energy changed once again as i was wheeled into the OR and prepped for a c-section.
meanwhile while i was pushing ozzy, abel started retracting, meaning his breaths weren't getting easier with time, but was struggling to breath like it was his first breath. so they rushed him off the the NICU and i told jordan to stay with him. so jordan had no idea what was going on with oskar's birth until he came down at the tail end to find me being wheeled out of L and D to the OR. jordan reassured me that abel was going to be just fine and was with me as i was prepped for surgery. i was surprisingly calm through all of this. it was just what needed to be done. until the doctor pinched my stomach to make sure i was totally numb and i said "you just pinched me. of course i felt that!" the doc told the anesthesiologist that he needed to get me ready for general since i wasn't numb enough and they needed to get oz out. i looked at him and i must have had such fear, desperation and disappointment in my eyes that he said back to the doc, "it will take me 5 minutes." the doc, in a less than cordial voice said, "we don't have 5 minutes, do it now!" our anesthesiologist gave me a knowing look and said, "give me one minute," and soon i felt my whole body go numb, up to my chest, and he said back to the doctor, "check her again." i felt nothing, and a second later i heard, "cutting!" our oskar was born at 4:48 am. i got to see his beautiful face after he was all cleaned up and bundled up, but he was off to the NICU too, as he was retracting just like his brother. jordan left to be with our newborns and our angel doula stayed with me through the tormenting post-op period.
my whole body started shaking, trembling like i have never experienced. i felt like i could barely breath. i couldn't even control my teeth from chattering. it was misery. thank god it lasted only 30 minutes, and lanell stroked my hair and face and rubbed my arms and hands, talking me through it. she was a god-send. i started to feel better and was wheeled into recovery. jordan joined me shortly after and said the boys were fine. we both crashed. jordan was in a deep sleep for about two hours and i kept going in and out of consciousness, reliving some of the past events, wanting to see my babies, but so exhausted at the same time. i remember just wanting the nurse to come in so i could find out when i could leave recovery and see our babies, and it seeming like forever.
by 7am or so, we were finally taken to our regular post-partum room and i was feeling really good. i had so much energy, i wasn't tired a bit, and i was ready to hold my babies. i made a few phone calls to family and friends to tell them about the birth of our boys (they were all STUNNED that i was talking at this point!). jordan went to see the boys and took some forbidden video to show me. by 8:30am i got a phone call from the NICU that the boys had been taken off oxygen and were ready to start nursing. our nurse at that point had said because of the c-section, i couldn't get out of bed for a few more hours. but our doc came in shortly after and said i was cleared to go visit our babies. so off we went! it was a miracle to really hold them for the first time, to touch their skin, to kiss their cheeks and their hands. to have them breastfeed, which they both did pretty good that first time, considering being born at 36 weeks. jordan and i were instantly beyond in love, beyond happy. our beautiful boys were finally with us on the outside. we could see what they looked like. after 9 months of imagining, dreaming and talking about what they would be like, here they finally were, right before us. amazing is all i can say.
the boys were in the NICU for the next three days for monitoring. it was tough to have our healthy boys stuck in this place, attached to all these monitors, and having our interactions with them controlled by, what we coined, the "neo-nazi-NICU-nurses." at the same time, we were able to get full nights of sleep while the nurses fed them every 3 hours, and recover from what was probably the most stressful, traumatic, amazing and profound event of lives. this was a very good thing. during the day we were on a 3 hour schedule of going to the NICU, nursing each boy for 20 minutes (and no more!), feeding them a formula supplement, changing their diapers, cuddling, and putting them down to sleep. we probably got about one hour in between these periods to go back to our room, eat, take a nap, and do anything else we needed to do. jordan was amazing during these first few days. he was born to be a dad and to care for these boys. he was my constant companion and supporter, such a rock. and i wouldn't dream of this journey without him.
we felt incredibly blessed because after three days the boys were discharged from the NICU and got to spend our last night in the hospital with us in the room. it was weird! for the first time, it was just the four of us as a family. we had to set the alarm to wake up to feed them throughout the night. they were such sound sleepers! we were unsure parents, having the nurses looking over us, helping us along while they were in the NICU. but we were so unbelievably happy that were were all together, able to finally get to know each other on our own terms. we probably got out of bed every hour to stare over the boys sleeping together in their crib. the next day we were all discharged home. my parents had flown in from chicago the morning the boys were born and had been at the hospital every day supporting us during our stay. they brought us food, love and encouragement, and they had the house all ready for our arrival. what an incredible feeling to walk into our home for the first time carrying our boys. matilda fell in love with them immediately. no growling, no barking, just sniffs and licks and calm.
and so it began...the boys' entry into this world. it all started one year ago on this day. we celebrate their actual birthday tomorrow, but as they say, the journey is as important. here is your journey, here is our journey...the beginning of so much. we love you.
it was our regular friday routine of doctors appointments. first in line was the perinatologist for a non stress test and BPP (biophysical profile). since my blood pressure had been on the high side, i had to go every week for these more advanced tests to monitor the well being of our babes. this morning's tests were just like the others - the boys were looking great. and my blood pressure was actually on the normal side of borderline. we left with the doctor saying, "maybe we won't see you next week!" (which he had actually been saying for the past two appointments)
next up was our regular OB. he took a peek at my cervix and i was about 2 cm dilated (normal) and said, while everything looked good, he wanted to do more monitoring just to make sure my blood pressure wasn't affecting the boys well being. his office is next door to the hospital, so he sent us up to labor and delivery for the tests. both jordan and i felt very strange as they admitted me into the maternity ward, like "what is really happening here?!" they gave me a gown, hooked me up to a blood pressure machine, strapped two monitors to my belly, drew some blood and tested my urine. after two hours, jordan was starting to get impatient and i was starting to wonder why were were still in the maternity ward. everything had checked out perfect and my blood pressure was, again, looking very good. the one thing were waiting on was the results of the blood test. that's when dr. love walked in (yes, that's really the name of our OB).
the blood test showed that my liver was functioning sub-optimally. i asked what that meant and the doctor gave me the grave diagnosis that if we waited it out, my body could stop functioning and he's had patients slip into a coma in a matter of 12 hours. his next sentence was, "right now you're healthy, the boys are healthy, so let's have us some babies!" it was exactly one day and one month before my due date of feb. 27.
up until this point, i had been solely focused on having our boys with as little "interference" as possible. we had taken natural birthing classes and we'd talked to dr. love about my desire for a drug free birth. but now we were faced with a different situation than the one i had created in my mind and i have to say that i'm proud of my ability to quickly change gears. added to the safety factor, i was miserably uncomfortable at this point and it was almost a relief to know that in just a matter of hours our boys would be snug in our arms instead of cramped in my belly. so after a short discussion, jordan and i looked at each other, smiled, and said "it's time to meet our boys!"
as soon as the decision was made, jordan left the hospital and went into high gear. he had to run home, get our packed bags (thank god we did this two weeks prior!), get matilda and ally set at their caregivers, call our doula, etc. i called my parents to tell them what was happening and my mom and dad immediately scheduled their flight to be with us the following morning. and then the real "admittance" began. i signed a bunch of papers (we had done pre-admittance which helped reduce a lot of the paperwork), twice as many because we were having TWO births. i have to say that's when it started to really sink in. reading and signing all of these papers for baby a and baby b. very soon i was going to meet our TWO babies, and be responsible for them for the rest of my life. i was going to be their mother. wow.
from that point on, things started happening fast. i was moved to our room - a regular labor and delivery room - and hooked up to an IV and administered pitocin. i was still by myself, but feeling pretty calm, and i was even able to call a few family and friends. it was a good time to just center myself and reflect on what was happening. i was so excited and a little bit scared of how this birth was going to go, although i had an overwhelming sense that everything would be just fine. and to my surprise, i had no reservations about how things were progressing and how we were dramatically veering from my "ideal" of birth. this was around 3:00 pm.
jordan got back to the hospital around 4pm and our wonderful doula, lanell, showed up shortly after. around 5:30pm dr. love came in to break my water. the nurse had tried about an hour earlier but had no success. it was a weird feeling having this gush of water come out, but to feel no pain sensation. and up until that point, despite getting pitocin, i hadn't really felt any contractions. the doc said that would change soon. and it did. in a very serious way. i went from feeling no pain to having very intense contractions almost immediately. and mind you i didn't want an epidural and was committed to going as far as i could without this assistance. by 7pm i was in the throws of labor and it was the most painful, intense thing i have ever experienced. all i can say is thank god for our doula. she massaged my back, said inspiring, guiding words, and kept me going. i was having contraction after contraction, with less than a minutes sometimes between them. it was crazy. i was moaning, i was screaming, i was smashing my face into the pillow and drooling like mad, i was squeezing jordan's hand so tight he honestly thought i was going to break some bones. and then they checked my cervix and is was only dialted 5 cm. i was ready to give in.
i talked to jordan and my doula about getting an epidural and lanell gave me extra strength and assurance to keep going. after about three more hours of mind and time-bending labor, i felt an urge to push and lanell thought this was an excellent sign and asked the nurse to check me. we all thought for sure i was just about there. no deal - i had progressed, but was at 8 cm. ugh! i knew i didn't have 2 more cm. in me without some serious help. without hesitation, i screamed "i'm done! get me an epidural! NOW!" it couldn't come fast enough (after i made that decision, it was like the longest 10 minutes of my life waiting for it!), and as soon as it was in, it was instant relief. actually, it was more like sweet, sweet relief! all of the crazy pain i had experienced for the past 5 some odd hours vanished. i took a nap. i meditated. we listened to great music. i laughed. i imagined the birth. around midnight i started feeling a lot of pressure and asked the nurse to check. i was very close, but still not dilated to 10. an hour and more pressure later, she checked again and it was go time. time to push. so exciting!
i got to push on my side for a while, on my other side, and while it felt good, i wasn't making as much progress as the nurse wanted. so she asked me to go on my back, which i was not thrilled about, but said i'd give it a try. it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. and i was getting much better at the "mechanics" of pushing, which basically consists of pushing through your butt, like you're taking a monster poo. pretty strange.
finally, after about 70 minutes of pushing, abel's head had crowned. it was beyond exciting and i could really feel it. part of me wishes i could have seen what was happening, but just seeing the excitement on jordan's, lanell's and the nurses faces, i knew something very powerful and amazing was happening. the nurse called in the doctor and EVERYTHING changed. we were lucky to stay in the L and D room the whole time, which i am so grateful for. no OR for the delivery, which is unusual. but within a matter of seconds, this wonderful, private, intimate birth sanctum that we had created for the past 10 hours totally changed. with the arrival of the doctor came about 7 others. the lights got bright, they wheeled in a two stations for the babies, it became cramped and chaotic. this was at 3am. it took another 30 minutes of crazy pushing with the doctor and his entourage before abel was born. dr. love had gone home and so a doctor we had never met was "at the helm." he was a serious guy and it was clear that birthing our babies was serious business to him. "one big push and his head is out!" and i felt such amazing relief. two more pushes and our sweet abel was born at 3:38 am! as soon as he was out, the nurse tried to grab him to take him to the "examining" station. our doctor said no, this baby is going to his mother, and he put abie on my belly so i could hold him. i will never forget this, my first time seeing my first born. total magic. so overwhelming and beautiful. it was beyond what my mind could comprehend and i felt totally out-of-body. i was all heart.
after about a minute of me holding abel (or maybe it was 30 seconds), they whisked him away and it was back to business. push! push! push! all of a sudden i realized i had another baby to birth - it was oskar's turn. i had no break between births. in retrospect, the one thing i wished was to have about a 10 minute break after abie was born. but for some reason it was very important to get oskar out as fast as possible. well, that just wasn't ozzy's style. he started out high in my uterus and after an hour of pushing, sometimes double and triple "rounds" of pushing without a break, plus the doctor being elbow deep trying to grab a leg to pull him out (oz was head down so it was to no avail), we were all spent. oz's heart rate had a couple decelerations and the doc declared that he had only descended to the top of my pelvis. not a ton of progress for an hour of pushing. then the hot spot reared its ugly head. the epidural had worn off in one localized area, causing intense pain on the left side of my pelvis. i thought i had a cramp and was trying to stretch it mid pushes. hysterical now that i look back, but not fun while it was happening. the doc probably thought i was a nut ball. i remember pushing the epidural button like 50 times. the doc looked at us and said, "i think we need to call this." i looked at everyone and said, "i'm done. get oskar out." it was as simple as that, and then the energy changed once again as i was wheeled into the OR and prepped for a c-section.
meanwhile while i was pushing ozzy, abel started retracting, meaning his breaths weren't getting easier with time, but was struggling to breath like it was his first breath. so they rushed him off the the NICU and i told jordan to stay with him. so jordan had no idea what was going on with oskar's birth until he came down at the tail end to find me being wheeled out of L and D to the OR. jordan reassured me that abel was going to be just fine and was with me as i was prepped for surgery. i was surprisingly calm through all of this. it was just what needed to be done. until the doctor pinched my stomach to make sure i was totally numb and i said "you just pinched me. of course i felt that!" the doc told the anesthesiologist that he needed to get me ready for general since i wasn't numb enough and they needed to get oz out. i looked at him and i must have had such fear, desperation and disappointment in my eyes that he said back to the doc, "it will take me 5 minutes." the doc, in a less than cordial voice said, "we don't have 5 minutes, do it now!" our anesthesiologist gave me a knowing look and said, "give me one minute," and soon i felt my whole body go numb, up to my chest, and he said back to the doctor, "check her again." i felt nothing, and a second later i heard, "cutting!" our oskar was born at 4:48 am. i got to see his beautiful face after he was all cleaned up and bundled up, but he was off to the NICU too, as he was retracting just like his brother. jordan left to be with our newborns and our angel doula stayed with me through the tormenting post-op period.
my whole body started shaking, trembling like i have never experienced. i felt like i could barely breath. i couldn't even control my teeth from chattering. it was misery. thank god it lasted only 30 minutes, and lanell stroked my hair and face and rubbed my arms and hands, talking me through it. she was a god-send. i started to feel better and was wheeled into recovery. jordan joined me shortly after and said the boys were fine. we both crashed. jordan was in a deep sleep for about two hours and i kept going in and out of consciousness, reliving some of the past events, wanting to see my babies, but so exhausted at the same time. i remember just wanting the nurse to come in so i could find out when i could leave recovery and see our babies, and it seeming like forever.
by 7am or so, we were finally taken to our regular post-partum room and i was feeling really good. i had so much energy, i wasn't tired a bit, and i was ready to hold my babies. i made a few phone calls to family and friends to tell them about the birth of our boys (they were all STUNNED that i was talking at this point!). jordan went to see the boys and took some forbidden video to show me. by 8:30am i got a phone call from the NICU that the boys had been taken off oxygen and were ready to start nursing. our nurse at that point had said because of the c-section, i couldn't get out of bed for a few more hours. but our doc came in shortly after and said i was cleared to go visit our babies. so off we went! it was a miracle to really hold them for the first time, to touch their skin, to kiss their cheeks and their hands. to have them breastfeed, which they both did pretty good that first time, considering being born at 36 weeks. jordan and i were instantly beyond in love, beyond happy. our beautiful boys were finally with us on the outside. we could see what they looked like. after 9 months of imagining, dreaming and talking about what they would be like, here they finally were, right before us. amazing is all i can say.
the boys were in the NICU for the next three days for monitoring. it was tough to have our healthy boys stuck in this place, attached to all these monitors, and having our interactions with them controlled by, what we coined, the "neo-nazi-NICU-nurses." at the same time, we were able to get full nights of sleep while the nurses fed them every 3 hours, and recover from what was probably the most stressful, traumatic, amazing and profound event of lives. this was a very good thing. during the day we were on a 3 hour schedule of going to the NICU, nursing each boy for 20 minutes (and no more!), feeding them a formula supplement, changing their diapers, cuddling, and putting them down to sleep. we probably got about one hour in between these periods to go back to our room, eat, take a nap, and do anything else we needed to do. jordan was amazing during these first few days. he was born to be a dad and to care for these boys. he was my constant companion and supporter, such a rock. and i wouldn't dream of this journey without him.
we felt incredibly blessed because after three days the boys were discharged from the NICU and got to spend our last night in the hospital with us in the room. it was weird! for the first time, it was just the four of us as a family. we had to set the alarm to wake up to feed them throughout the night. they were such sound sleepers! we were unsure parents, having the nurses looking over us, helping us along while they were in the NICU. but we were so unbelievably happy that were were all together, able to finally get to know each other on our own terms. we probably got out of bed every hour to stare over the boys sleeping together in their crib. the next day we were all discharged home. my parents had flown in from chicago the morning the boys were born and had been at the hospital every day supporting us during our stay. they brought us food, love and encouragement, and they had the house all ready for our arrival. what an incredible feeling to walk into our home for the first time carrying our boys. matilda fell in love with them immediately. no growling, no barking, just sniffs and licks and calm.
and so it began...the boys' entry into this world. it all started one year ago on this day. we celebrate their actual birthday tomorrow, but as they say, the journey is as important. here is your journey, here is our journey...the beginning of so much. we love you.
Monday, January 21, 2008
Okay, I submit!!!
miss tracey has done such a tremendous job over the past year raising
these lil rascals while I'm at work... so I submit... she got her
digital slr!
these lil rascals while I'm at work... so I submit... she got her
digital slr!
on another note, over the past year i have helped take care of these
wonderful lil monkeys and worked full time. it would be nice to be
rewarded with a harley. okay ladies and gentlemen (um, carrie,
etowndz, dawn, and mom) i expect you to start rallying behind me and
get my loving wife to agree to this simple and small request. thanks
for your support!
Thursday, January 17, 2008
the ozman walketh
it happened tonight, in front of all of us! ozzy took two steps, then again, then again. the first time it happened i caught it out of the corner of my eye. he was playing with a puzzle on the chair and then all of a sudden i saw him walk two steps to the "learning table." i said to jordan, "i think oz just walked but i'm not sure!" a few minutes later i held out b-b the bird for him and he took two steps to get him. then another two steps to get to jordan. so awesome! i don't know who it's more exhilarating for - us or him! and i know abie j is not far behind, as he's been workin' the push wagon like no other. go boys go!
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Tuesday, January 15, 2008
camera debate
i'd like to join the great camera debate. my fellow twin bloggers have noted the wonderful difference a good lens makes (see unleashing the artist post on goddess). i couldn't agree more! you see, i'm a photography junkie. my thing is shooting buildings and landscapes, and i've always used an old school olympus with a wide angle. i love my camera and swore i'd stick by 'er during the whole digital revolution. a few years back we bought a tiny nikon coolpix mainly to throw in our backpack on our traveling adventures. we toyed with the idea of getting a digi SLR, but i just couldn't fathom forking over the cash, and abandoning my good film friend. well...there's a different story going on now.
my subject has changed dramatically in the past year. instead of capturing rock solid buildings, i'm now chasing around two rambunctious monkeys to capture "the essence" of the moment. not easy with a mediocre digital point-and-shoot. next to impossible with my SLR. here is an example of what my "good" camera can do with the limitations of indoor light and a moving target. oh, and out of this batch of 25 shots, i got 5 good ones, and it cost me $17 to get the film developed, printed and put on a CD, not to mention the cost of film!
my subject has changed dramatically in the past year. instead of capturing rock solid buildings, i'm now chasing around two rambunctious monkeys to capture "the essence" of the moment. not easy with a mediocre digital point-and-shoot. next to impossible with my SLR. here is an example of what my "good" camera can do with the limitations of indoor light and a moving target. oh, and out of this batch of 25 shots, i got 5 good ones, and it cost me $17 to get the film developed, printed and put on a CD, not to mention the cost of film!
Thursday, January 10, 2008
freedom
birthday suit. you could just tell how much he enjoyed it - he had an
extra kick in his step!
through the looking glass
actually, i think it's just begun...
XL tunnel
course, until grandma lee-lee brings the oh-so-cool turquoise IKEA
tunnel that the boys got for christmas! here is oz circumnavigating.
Monday, January 07, 2008
stacking and nesting
walking schmawking...our lil' abie is, officially today, a stacker and a nester! i thought it would never come. the endless destruction, haplessly throwing toys off the shelves, flinging the rings of the stacking cone, picking up and dropping (countless times) the multicolored bowls. and me dutifully picking up, assembling, ordering, all for the purpose of more destruction!
as i joined in what i thought would be a fun fling fest this morning, i noticed something rather odd happening with abel. instead of throwing the ring across the room, he was very purposely placing it on top of the cone. he couldn't quite get the ring on at first, but after about twenty attempts, he did it! i was one proud mama.
we went into the living room next and i put the nesting bowls in front of him. after disassembling and tossing them around for a minute, all of a sudden, he put one bowl into the next, and the next, and the next. it was beautiful site! i'm starting to dig this one year milestone.
lesson for tomorrow is putting toys on shelves in ascending height order!
as i joined in what i thought would be a fun fling fest this morning, i noticed something rather odd happening with abel. instead of throwing the ring across the room, he was very purposely placing it on top of the cone. he couldn't quite get the ring on at first, but after about twenty attempts, he did it! i was one proud mama.
we went into the living room next and i put the nesting bowls in front of him. after disassembling and tossing them around for a minute, all of a sudden, he put one bowl into the next, and the next, and the next. it was beautiful site! i'm starting to dig this one year milestone.
lesson for tomorrow is putting toys on shelves in ascending height order!
Sunday, January 06, 2008
forward motion
we did it! the boys officially are forward riders in the car and, i have to say, it's fantastic! it is so cool to just turn around and see their smiling faces, tickle a foot, or play peek-a-boo with them. better yet, they absolutely love it! i catch them staring out the window at the fast moving world beyond, totally fascinated. we got my car's windows tinted yesterday so now we are all set for awesome car rides to far off distant lands (like big bend!).
Friday, January 04, 2008
and behind door number one...
ozzy and abie are obsessed with all things doors. anything with hinges that swings open and shut when pushed or pulled, and that has the capacity to bonk you in the head, is the bees knees. the love affair started several months ago and is just not showing any signs of slowing. the idea that something is behind that door, extra bonus if it is brother, mom, dad or (gasp!) dog or cat, is just too unbelievable to comprehend (even if it was just seen behind the door two seconds ago). the shouts of glee, the sudden inhalation of excitement, the belly laughs - oh, doors, what would we do without you?!
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